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Anonymous asked: I am basically a boy stuck in a girls body. But I know if I ever told anyone, they would ll think I am a freak. My parents would probably laugh at me. I'm going to always have to look like a girl, act like a girl, and talk like a girl. But I don't see the point in living if its going to be a lie.

Don’t do anything rash Anon! You are a wonderful person and people will miss you if you’re gone. :C

You need to talk to someone. If you really feel this way then you can act upon it. I’d recommend looking into the Trevor program Anon. There is nothing wrong about the way you feel, and you should be able to be you.

Anonymous asked: im moving 2000 miles away from my mom. i am starting high school next year. my sister is starting her senior year next year and because my parents dont want her moving for senior year, i am moving with my dad next summer and my mom is staying here with my sister next school year. i will only see my mom(my bestfriend) on winter break, summer break, and spring break. i dont know what i will do. my dad just doesnt get me and i cant do things with him i can with my mom. i dont know what to do

I think you have to give your dad a chance. Yes, the relationship will be different than that with your mom. But maybe your dad gets things that your mom doesn’t, and can help you in different aspects of life!

Sometimes things happen to us that we have no control over, and you really have to try and make the best of it, because who knows! Maybe these things will lead you to someplace better than where you are now.

Anonymous asked: I go to an all-girls school, and I thought it would be fun. I've been in it for a month now. I was given the choice one month prior to attending this school - I could've chosen whether to go to the public school or the all-girls private one, so I chose the private one. Now I really sort of regret it. My friends are leaving me out of everything. I only get calls when it concerns homework. I feel lonely 24/7. And I am going to transfer out next year. What should I do until then?

Sadly I think you have to commit to your decision. :C Try and reach out, be more social, talk to new people if your old friends are acting that way. You deserve to be happy and to have fun!

Anonymous asked: everybody keeps telling me to get a friend who actually lives here, but almost everyone in my school who is my age hates me. its not like i dont want friends, but i just dont want those people as my friends. im going to a new school next year but im scared that everyone there will hate me for no reason as well

Don’t set yourself up with a negative attitude! I’m sure you are a wonderful person Anon. People will like you for who you are.

Anonymous asked: I've been so unhappy lately. I'm 15 and I feel like the whole world is on my shoulders. I'm taking all AP and SAT classes this year; my parents expect nothing less than a scholarship to an Ivy League school. My friends left me and my parents have decided to divorce. I always have a fake smile on but I cry myself to sleep every night. I've been called fat a lot and I am never pleased with myself. I've thought about suicide multiple times and I want to cut so badly but I'm too afraid of the pain.

Don’t hurt yourself. :C I promise that it makes nothing better. And I know, I really honestly know what you’re going through, and it might be difficult to imagine but so many people feel exactly what you’re feeling.

In no way shape or form am I trying to undermine your feelings however. Anon, you need to be happy. Difficult as it is, I think you need to speak up about the college thing if your parents are pressuring you into life choices you won’t be happy with. And stuff like AP and SAT, while stressful at the time, will pass. 

You are beautiful Anon.

Anonymous asked: I have this friend, who used to be one of my best friends [lets call her B for reference]. In our little group, there's her, me, and my other friend [I'll call her K]. And we've been friends for about one and a half years - best friends - but B always seems to annoy us. ALL THE TIME. She copies us completely - she like the bands I like, the movies I like, the ice cream flavours I like.. And I know its not coincidental. She even purposely flirts with the guy that both K and I like. Help me? xx

Well honestly, copying is sort of a form of flattery. There is a chance that she feels lonely or outcast or alienated and is trying her hardest to really fit in with you and K. If you and K like all the same things why can’t B?

If you really don’t like her you have to be honest and say so. Don’t lead the girl on in a friendship if its not positive for anyone.

Anonymous asked: So, I found the guy of my dreams. We become best friends, now were a couple, after a whole two years of having the biggest crush on him. But now, when I'm around him now, I feel sick. Like I'm about to throw up. I don't know why, it just happens. What the hell am I supposed to do now?

Well I think you have to move on with life. Sometimes things change. You change. The people you know change. But the biggest thing is you have to do what’s best for yourself. So if there’s nothing there, as difficult as it is, you have to let go…

Anonymous asked: I feel so alone. Everybody has someone or a group of friends. Everyone but me. I do have lots of support and friends here on tumblr, but no one in college. I' am shy and quiet and in college. I don't know any social skills, and I'm tired. I don't want to be alone. I'm scared. I tried making friends in my school's gsa club but everybody knows each other there and I just stayed quiet while everyone else talked. I like a girl in there too. But I just feel like I will be this way forever, isolated

I had a hard time making new friends in college too. All the friends I did have at first were just the same people I went to high school with. Sometimes it’s hard for those of us that are slightly more introverted and shy, to put ourselves out there. My best advice to make friends is to try and meet people with similar interests. The best way to do that is to maybe join a club that interests you. If you already have a major picked out try to talk to people and form study groups with students in your major classes. Chances are, depending on the size of your school, that you will be seeing the same people in your classes that are in the same year and major as you. And lastly, I know this will be hard, but sometimes you just have to leave your comfort zone and put your self out there.

Anonymous asked: So, I used to be the most happiest girl anyone knew. I always had a positive spirit, I was bubbly, kind hearted, and I just loved life. I always found the optimism in everything. Recently, I was in my first relationship, and I know this sounds foolish, but I really believe the guy was my soulmate. Things didn't work out, (it was REALLY complicated), and my world was torn down. I'm a wreck. I don't know what to do, my friends have given up on me, and I really just feel like giving up on myself.

Relationships a hard. Period. Especially when they end. Also, no relationship is the same, so how you chose to handle a break up will be completely different to how your friends deal with it. I went through a bad break up also, with my first bf who I was head over heels in love with and thought that we’d be together forever. This obviously didn’t happen and I sulked around for a good 6 months and my friends were tired of hearing me weep and moan. But, that’s just how I dealt with it, eventually though I did get over it. You’ll get over it too it just might take a little more time. Even though your friends might seem to have given up on you, don’t forget that they may help you get through it. Try writing about your feelings, or some other helpful way, like exercising to get all that pain out of you. Having an outlet will help you deal with your pain in a positive and safe way.

Anonymous asked: What are you supposed to do when someone you love relentlessly hurts you, but you know they love you back? Should you just put up with it and try to be happy? Or should you just plow through the sadness and hope eventually they stop? And how do you even be happy when they're hurting you?

Talk to the other person. You need to let the other person know when it is they are hurting you. And you need to be completely straightforward about it and not play some coy mind games hoping that they understand what you’re saying. Sometimes they may not know that they are doing something hurtful, and if you don’t speak up about it they will just continue to do what they always do. If you address the issue, and they love you, they’ll try to change their behavior. If they still continue their behavior after you’ve explicitly, said that they hurt you then maybe it’s time for the both of you to move on. It won’t be easy for you to let go of someone that you love, but sometimes it’s the best thing to do for the both of you.